Couples With A Good Sex Life Are More Likely To Cheat!  

tedscott40 54M
1443 posts
2/14/2018 3:58 am
Couples With A Good Sex Life Are More Likely To Cheat!


They like sex a lot and often want other partners. Good looking men cheat more. I don't think that most of you realize that being good looking does come with some difficulties.
Ted

tedscott40 54M
2084 posts
2/14/2018 4:00 am

People do like you more when you're good looking. That makes sense to me.
Ted


1st_downonu 61M
37 posts
2/14/2018 4:23 am

Good looking men get more opportunities. I've seen lots of women with "standards" that loose those standards if a married guy is "hot".


tedscott40 replies on 2/15/2018 4:20 am:
You're right.
Ted

Heathen_G 59M
3970 posts
2/14/2018 4:59 am

Couples With A Good Sex Life Are More Likely To Cheat! ... No.

Couples with a lousy sex life, or lousy intimate life, ignoring or taking each other for granted, are more likely to cheat.

You have to remember, "Cheating" is a response to a "Reason". But to "Cheat" , he [or she] needs an opportunity.

They like sex a lot and often want other partners. .... No. They get bored , and want others for sex. That's one reason.

Good looking men cheat more. .... No.

Good looking men will always have the opportunity to cheat.

I don't think that most of you realize that being good looking does come with some difficulties. ... Being able to obtain "Opportunities" is not a difficulty.

Being male and financially poor ... is a difficulty.


lyavu 44F  
917 posts
2/14/2018 11:51 pm

If i was having good sex why would i go and cheat ? Doesn't make sense. Pple cheat due to no satisfaction . I would think .


tedscott40 replies on 2/15/2018 4:21 am:
The article claimed that good looking people with good sex lives often cheat.
Ted

Heathen_G 59M
3970 posts
2/15/2018 5:18 pm

tedscott40 replies on 2/15/2018 4:21 am:
The article claimed that good looking people with good sex lives often cheat.


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You probably read it wrong, or the writer of the article messed up.

Good looking people have more "Opportunities" to cheat..... that is quite different than , "Often cheat".


GratefulGirl69 48F  
87 posts
2/16/2018 10:16 pm

Could you share information about the article, Ted? Details about these sorts of studies/surveys can reveal certain qualifiers that affect the validity of the offered conclusions. It would be helpful to know the size and characteristics of the sample group, the method used to collect the data, the specific parameters of the study. Really, you kind of need to see the precise questions- and how "cheating" is defined- in order to know how to interpret it.

Don't get me wrong, I am not talking about some fuzzy, Clinton-esque manipulation of terminology intended to narrow the area that encompasses infidelity on a one-on-one basis. Instead, I am wondering if involvement in the Lifestyle was included in the study and, if so, how such activities were classified (cheating, or not?) and if there was a statistically significant difference between swingers and muggles when defining "a good sex life."

I am curious about this because my ex-husband and I were in the Lifestyle for many years, and both we and the couples we played with had very active and fulfilling one-on-one sex lives. This is something that some people don't get (or can't accept), but swinging was something that enhanced our shared sexual experience- it was not a band-aid on or a remedy for an ailing sex life.

We never considered it "cheating" to have sex with others in that context- we were always not only in-the-know, but were actually physically present when one was playing with others. Usually in the same room, same bed- at most distant, in an adjoining room with an open door between.

Even though we didn't (and still don't, when we reminisce about it) regard it as infidelity in any way, shape, or form, there are some who disagree. Some believe and assert that engaging in sexual activity with others outside of a marriage represents cheating, even when both partners are doing it with approval and simultaneously.

I don't really know what to say to people who hold that view, except to perhaps point out that the pain caused and the damage done by infidelity usually centers on the feeling of a betrayal of trust, on the insult and injury of dishonesty and deception. And there is nothing like that in the swinging experience- or at least, there wasn't for us. It was all always open, shared.

How this relates? Well, the simple fact that we wanted and were willing to have other sexual partners while we already had a fulfilling shared sex life demonstrates that people don't have to be dissatisfied to desire others. I can't imagine that wouldn't also be true outside of the swinging realm; given my experience, it seems perfectly reasonable that someone can be very happy with his/her permanent partner and still want to enjoy sexual interaction with another. A desire for variety does not equate to a shortcoming in a mainstay.

Additionally, the very fact of our very active and satisfying sex life is what stimulated interest in expanding the parameters of our sexual activities. If we hadn't been so amped up, so the speak, and open to new explorations together, we wouldn't have ventured into play with others. So, it is fair to say that our excellent physical relationship led us to want to have sex with others- and if those activities can be defined as "cheating," even though we participated in them together, then it is definitely true that our good sex life made us "more likely to cheat."

These points could be either critical to understanding or entirely irrelevant to the study you are referencing. The only way to know is to see the details of it. So, if you could cite your source, it would be helpful.

Oh... and I don't understand the "good-looking" thing. Good-looking, based on what criteria? As defined by whom? There's no such thing as an objective measure when it comes to that sort of quality. Can you be more specific about the characteristics that prove to be a burden to those who possess them?

As always, thanks for providing an interesting topic!


tedscott40 replies on 2/17/2018 4:42 am:
I'm not sure about the details of the study. I think it only included monogamous couples that had a partner cheat. This had nothing to do with the Lifestyle. I wouldn't consider that cheating since you both agreed that you could have sex with others.
Thank you for your thoughtful comments.
Ted

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