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Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
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Monday's question
Posted:Mar 18, 2019 2:52 pm
Last Updated:Mar 20, 2019 6:10 pm
One of the most common message I receive is a request for basically drive thru sex service.
You know the type, "Im in your town", "I'm in town for the night/wknd", "I'm driving thru kamloops ____, wanna meet?" , "I'm ___ hotel, by for a drink and a chat!"....

I get it that most of those guys are the recently divorced/separated types or the married/attached ones, and hoping to get some strange away from the hometown.

What is the appeal of drive thru sex service?

Does the nsa/anonymous sex and drive thru sex appeal to you?
If it does, how do you work through the emotions of being used as a convenient hole?

And I also get these messages on a PAID dating site, not just on this site. But this site pretty much 99% of the messages are for nsa/anonymous sex.
Sinday coffee in the sun
Posted:Mar 17, 2019 1:00 pm
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2019 12:58 pm
Its a sunny day in the badlands, breakfast was pancakes, sausages, fresh eggs, and, of course, coffee. The it was off to the sheep pen to help an unloved lamb get some milk from the ewes.

Flipping through the photos on my cell I across this one,

I remember my search that screeched to a halt and ended in sex therapy. Lol
Though it wasn't for the lack of trying. Hence why the trials with different profiles and different sites.
As I'm sure many may recall those long ago posts.

What I am trying to wrap my head around is the "numbers game", where I live the numbers are just not there. Well at least for a native women in her 40's the numbers are not there. Though I imagine the other women may have more selection.

Do the numbers play out or does the sex even out over time?
I do remember that you needed to line up 2 or 3 dates a night or at least a weekend just to make the most out of finding sex.

But how far are you willing to travel when you are over 40?

What do you do to make the date mutually satisfying?
Spring cleaning
Posted:Mar 16, 2019 6:22 pm
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2019 7:32 am

Spring yard work has begun.
Burning day tomorrow, clearing the brush along the road frontage so those idiots flicking cigarettes out the window in August don't burn our place to the ground. Lol
Its been a few years since the last good burn...so ya I will have to call the local fire department to come on up. (No they aren't the hot firefighters)

Ground is stil frozen so discing the gardens will wait another week or so.

But my hot date night for my bday n friday and my Saturday....midwifing new ewes.

Ah well,
I am looking into a trip to Denver Colorado for the kink conference there.
Just workin out the cost for 5 days of travel.

Otherwise, ya,

How was your day?
Just for thought
Posted:Mar 15, 2019 10:57 am
Last Updated:Mar 16, 2019 5:54 pm

Lets just say I needing some orgasms right about now. Lol

Enjoy your Friday
"Confidence is sexy"
Posted:Mar 14, 2019 5:10 pm
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2019 12:59 pm
The catch all popular phrase that people like to toss there when trying to describe a woman and her being 'attractive/sexy/blah/blah/blah'.

For which I have blogged this topic a few times over the years, but is confidence really that attractive or is it being conventionally attractive attractive.

Because I had all the confidence in the world and my sexual confidence was unstoppable, until I started getting comments that it wasn't attractive or desirable. Then the bad dates took a toll on both.
But the whole confidence is sexy thing seemed to only be true as long as she is still conventionally attractive otherwise it was toted as her being too full of herself.

I do hear that attractive women need confidence, but they will still receive messages just by virtue of being there/online. Lol. So thats a whole different thing.

Anyway, it come again in a kink discussion about being confident and that will attract men. Lololololol... no, being attractive brings the men in, or the willingness to do nsa/anonymous sex. Either way confidence isnt as up there as many want to place it.

I have certainly been told that my profiles can be intimidating, but more probably because not a submissive doormay looking for . But then I have also been told that I write too much. apparently being a thinkin person is offputting. Lol

But ya, my profiles, obviously my dating one is very vanilla compared to my kink one. (Lesson learned with crossing the two). I still think I need to dumb them down some, just because its age/attraction and how much work he thinks he needs to put into someone like me. The only way to build confidence is to have good dates, but with the hookup culture here... its not happening any time soon. Lol

So you all get to just see my rambling from the badlands, where women outnumber available men.

So sexy bloggers,
One thing I wanted to poll y'all was:
When you respond to a question asked about women, given that many bloggers are over 40 (even over 35), what is the age and attractiveness level of the women in your head when you answer the question?
Like when you respond to if you want women to message first, are you just thinkin about that 18 yr old hottie.

Do you envision a really attractive woman and ideal conditions when you respond with a 'hell ya, i wish she/they would ask first'!

Just curious... because I find when people say "confidence is sexy" they must be only thinking about conventionally attractive women.
Women over 40 and flirting?
Posted:Mar 12, 2019 8:52 am
Last Updated:Mar 20, 2019 6:15 pm
So 2 different dating books where recommended to me, Seven Days to Sex Appeal, and vlogs & book How to Get the Guy by Matthew Hussey.

The first one lost my attention by the 2nd page because it starts with a story about a young, thin attractive chick unable to get dates. ( worlds smallest violin for those type, lol.)
But I'm trying to power thru it without rolling my eyes too much, though it does cover being 'feminine', playing those flirting games and not directly approaching men.
So ok
Not approaching directly. I know my experience with that proves to be true, to not approaxh first but holy fuck you can go months to years between meeting men. Lol. As men refuse to notice the women they don't find instantly attractive.

Being feminine, , believe me I will never ever meet men with my work clothes on, I am always dressed nicely when out in public. And NO workout wear is not daily clothes to be in public with. I wear workout clothes when I'm actually going to do exercises.
I am really polite in person, I am a bit old fashioned in a few ways, but men would never notice me unless I approach first.

Then Mat Hussey, internet dating hero for young women. Bless his little cotton socks. Play dating games, but don't approach first.
I am still trying to read through this book, the only question I had about was the way they display the availability of potentials.
I understand fully that women under 35 (specifically attractive caucasian 21-27yr old) are the most desirable of age bracket and they would be able to play the numbers game. His take was to look at dating as an unlimited source of potentials rather than a limited number. Learn to walk away (which I nailed in my early 20's), basically don't put all your eggs in one basket, which can be valuable lessons to those that are just starting out looking for relationships instead of just hookups.

SO, for those over 40 do you still have those 'unlimited options'?
Ladies, Do you approach first in person or in message?

There are unlimited options for nsa sex, so I'm asking about actual "relationships" whether that be a casual partner (real fwb) or fulltime romantic relationship not just fuck buddies.

When it comes to meeting in real life, do you play those flirting games? Yanno the ones where you look at him then look away, play with your hair, adjust your body language, ect,?
Play hard to get but not too hard to get?

That has to do with how much value you place on yourself, if you think highly of yourself that you don't need to be direct he will in turn place a higher value on you.

Do you have any books for older women that you can recommend?
A few other books on my reading list are for people over 50 and closer to retirement, about 'adult relationships'. Which I found to be an interesting comparison to the books for much younger people.
Sinday in the sun
Posted:Mar 10, 2019 12:25 pm
Last Updated:Mar 11, 2019 12:26 pm

Enjoy the day!

Add a post on a Saturday
Posted:Mar 9, 2019 12:54 pm
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2019 11:43 am

So what gets you that call back from him or her?

Guys, what does it take to get a call back from you?

Ladies, do you call him to ask for another date if you don't hear from him, or do you just try out another?
Friday in the badlands
Posted:Mar 8, 2019 3:21 pm
Last Updated:Mar 9, 2019 5:25 pm

At least my Friday is not starting like that!

Enjoy the weekend
Hump day...maybe
Posted:Mar 6, 2019 8:34 am
Last Updated:Mar 8, 2019 1:04 pm
Where the heck is strontium from...

Aside from that,

Its bad enough that sex with someone new is already typically pretty meh.
The only reasons you call them back was because you tolerated thier company and they where attractive. Lol.

The service providers are really sitting on my mind because of my past experiences proven that you need to be attractive to get the good sex. Lol maybe not quite that rigid but pretty fuckin close to being right.

I was planning for a meet n greet next week. I really should check the calendar before tossing days out there.., lol
The film festival is in town and its my bday.
Why would I spend a night with a bunch of women for the kink event, and the other nights are the movies I want to watch.

Rescheduling the first event I put on this year...yah flower!!
Posted:Mar 5, 2019 12:13 pm
Last Updated:Mar 6, 2019 8:36 am
Totally feel like this...

Especially when it comes to searching dating sites, seriously Yes I just compared commercial cattle to people...

You enter your search preferences, hit enter, see a page full of similar profiles and when you start looking at them and they all blend together.
(Yes the grammar is doing that thing today)

I'm well aware the female profiles are not any better, but for the most part just need to be attractive and at a certain age thus are still rewarded with messages. (A few studies around this say the same thing)

Eh, where was I going with this
The popularity of the swipe culture really doesn't help either, but for the most part those apps and attitude cater to the popular hookup culture.
Geesh fit in or get out,

I really do wonder if most of those women have experienced good sex or if they are fine with being the masturbatatory sleeve. I get it that the excitement of notch collecting can be there, but you are wanting touch, orgasms, pleasure, do you still suffer thru the hookups in the hopes that one in ten would give you that pleasure.
I try and wrap my head around this, believe me I want to disconnect my desires and learn to fine with mechanical.

Of course I am referring to standard dating sites when it comes to searches, but it can certainly apply to here if you are just looking for some quick sex. You type in your location and age preference, and boom a page full of penis pics to pick from, just pick a dic use it then hollar NEXT.

Simple right.

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